It has been a while since I have jotted down some of my thoughts about how I currently feel about life. I have been caught up in a whirlwind of events…..not in a bad sense, far from it! But with my mind constantly racing and me running around all over the place, I haven’t had a chance to sit down and watch the dust settle.
Yesterday I attended the birthday party of my best friend’s daughter; Isla. My little angel has recently turned two and continues to know what she wants and sticks to her guns, which besides her cute cheeky face, is what I love the most about Isla. I look at Isla with a lot of admiration, I mean at two years old she is already a girl who knows what she wants and does not allow Mummy, Daddy or any Aunties get in her way! Yet she is caring, playful and vibrant….a real gem. Watching Isla play with her friends, made me begin to think about the transition from a girl to woman and what it means to me to be a woman.
I mean some may say that being a woman is closely linked with motherhood or marriage. But then there are lot of women I know who have children or are married. However if you take off the rose tinted glasses, those women appear to be like little girls walking in their mummy’s high heeled shoes with smeared lipstick. (For the afro haired girls out there, I know that you added the skirt hair – touch to this illusion)
Other people may say that being a woman comes hand in hand with being in charge, not depending on any man – an ‘independent’ woman. But I know some women who lead an independent life not necessarily out of choice but life has just handed them this this path, and not all of them are happy being an ‘independent woman.’
With these thoughts in my head, I began to look at the women; colleagues, strangers and friends that have made an impact on me this year, the ones who made me think even more about what I can bring to the table and what I believe it means to be a woman.
Here are some of the women, that I have had the pleasure to hang out with this year and their prominent attributes:
Diana Nneka Atuona (Writer)– A women who always looks forward never backwards and absorbs life and documents it so accurately!
Anna Ageykum (Clothes Designer) – A women who is grounded and never fails to push the boundaries and set the pace.
Terese Jordan (Journalist/ Producer) – A woman who never apologies for being different, and standing for her beliefs.
Bianca Sams ( Actress/ Writer) – A women who continually seeks new challenges, new ways of growing and refining skills
AFRORETRO – Lilly and Anna (jewellery and clothes designers) Lead by women that are proud of their heritage and allow this to influence their journeys
Sophia Jackson (Founder and Editor of Afridiziak) – A woman who is a leader not a follower
Innercity Shakepspeare – Dr. Melanie Andrews (actress/ director/ lecturer) and Katy Haber, (producer)- Lead by women who selflessly encourage young people to push themselves to the limit.
Elizabeth Lynch (Producer/ Director/ Mentor) – A woman who continues to grow, learn and help others realise their true potential.
Squeamish Kate and Squeamish Nicola (bloggers) – Women, who always keep it real!
All these women and many, many, many, many more, have made me understand that being a woman is not about sugar and spice and all things nice. It’s about your achievements, being brave and stepping out of the mould and working hard to achieve what you truly desire, it’s about being happy and grateful with what you have and realising your true potential and not apologising for being different. Not being bullied into a role that does not agree with your ideals. Yes, women have a hard time in this world, but from my experiences I know that letting society define what you are is not as important as what you see yourself to be.
So, in reference to the title of this blog and Lisa Stansfield…….I am a Lady and I AM DEFINITELY ALL WOMEN. 🙂
I am not a writer, just a blabber, a girl that asks many questions but never knows how to collate the answers. Just a normal girl with nothing more to say, than words that mean nothing but say something.