It’s that time of year when most people are going through a transition. Those who were bigger become slimmer, long hair is cut into short hair, short hair is grown into long hair, winter paleness becomes a summer bronze, kids/ teenagers leave their institutes of education an embark on new journey. The sun is shining consistently – BBQs and weddings are happening throughout summer. But as summer begins we begin to think about what we have achieved so far in the last 6 months of the year and how this relates to our age.
We begin to feel the pressure of success and we submit by panicking! The Media is to blame…….
Why does the media constantly like to express that if you are not ‘successful’ by the time your 25 than your a nobody? I find it really interesting the obsession society has with age. In the past couple of weeks I have had heard many talented, erudite and ambitious friends of mine moan about the fact that they are approaching 25 and they have not yet succeeded in their chosen career.
But who makes these rules? Who says that by the time your 25/30 you have to be a major mega star, have a house worth 5 million, own a Porsche, run a marathon, travel all around the world, get married, have kids, buy a house in the countryside….etc ….etc.
We (I say we…but I mean generally society) are constantly being exposed to the antics of the young 20 something’s in the ‘celebrity world,’ that we gradually make comparisons subconsciously to their lives. This sends most of us in a panic, particularly if you are in the creative industry as there is no regimented structure to guide you to your destiny. If I am honest there has been many times that I look at the ‘English Rose ‘ Emma Watson and felt envois of her for the fact that she has a major acting career and is only 20. However I then ask myself, really and truly would I enjoy playing a toff nosed, know it all in Harry Potter? (Well the money would be great and I would be working with amazing British Talent such as Helen Bonaham –Carter.) Realistically I would never be cast as that character! Therefore I have stopped comparing myself to young renowned actors, because obviously my pathway is completely different. From my experiences, I have begun to be more grateful for what I have…and if you believe in karma and the power of the universe…in order for you to achieve great things, you NEED to be grateful for what you have first.
Okay this is easier said than done, but if you are unhappy about something in your life than change it! These are the words of advice I have told my fab friends, however another issue comes to play…M>>>A>>>>R>>>>R>>>>I>>>>A>>>G>>>E. Yep folks thats right – MARRIGE, as I said before the sun is shining and there are so many BBQ’s but as you branch out of your teens and into adulthood, the popular functions are no longer house parties but weddings. I have been invited to 4 weddings this summer, 4 weddings that I can’t wait to attend, to see friends celebrate and commit to their eternal love for another human being. But I would be lying if I said that the pressure of age in regards to finding a hubby, is not getting to me. When I received each wedding invitation, I began to analyse every single aspect of my existence…..and of course I began to panic. It is hard to maintain the balance of a healthy relationship whilst also being determined to achieve great things for your career. There have been many times when I have met ‘the perfect guy’ ( most of them turn out to be self obsessed idiots, beautiful, but self obsessed who are unable to express their true emotions – of course I have begun to look at why I fancy this idiots…..maybe I see myself in them? Who knows….but I am looking into this) but eventually the relationship ends because I am more committed to making my career work rather than the relationship. I blame the media, the constant reminder that you have to be successful before 30 used to frighten me, as well as my biological clock ticking, so I would focus all my attention on my career, regardless of the fact that I had a boyfriend – I wouldn’t care!
But now, now I am chilled out, relaxed, dancing to my own tune, because with age comes wisdom. So what if the media loves to print pages and pages about the Brat Pack of the naughties: Alfie Allen, Jamie Winestone, Lilly Allen, Daisy Lowe, Peaches & Pixie Geldof, Kelly Osborne……etc – their success has arrived to them in a different way. I am not denying the fact that they have worked extremely hard for their careers but I also acknowledge that their parents are well know people and I am pretty sure most parents would do anything to ensure their little darling has a secure future, if you know what I mean.
But with that aside, you decide how you want your life to be, you decide where you want to go and who you want to be, but you are also responsible for these stupid age restrictions, pressurising yourself to get married before a certain age, what the f*%k.
There is more to life than that and there are plenty more important things to think about, just ensure that your having fun and surrounding yourself around people who are supportive and make you laugh. When you are in a state where you are happy, confident and open only then will you receive the excitement that you long for, whether that be a hot intelligent man/lady or your big break.
SO back to my talented, erudite and ambitious friends – after having a very grown up conversation/ debate about all of the above, we have seen the bigger picture and are looking forwarded to the summer sun, BBQs and weddings…….well until one of us has a major Hollywood career or makes the first million…well that will bring on another panic attack for all of us! Let’s hope it is not until the big 30.
I am not a writer, just a blabber, a girl that asks many questions but never knows how to collate the answers. Just a normal girl with nothing more to say, than words that mean nothing but say something